There, I Said It...

3/13/2012

I'm going to start by saying I apologize in advance if this post contains too much "personal" information for any of my readers! However, I like to keep it real on my blog and this is something I feel like sharing today!

{Pho-bi-a}
An extreme or irrational fear of or aversion to something or a situation.

I'm sure most of you have heard of your 'typical' phobias, such as: Arachnophobia {fear of spiders}, Altophobia {fear of heights}... the list goes on and on.

My fear/phobia however is not listed {as far as I know.}

Today, I'm admitting my horrific fear of the GYNO...
along with confessing the fact that I'm 20 years old, married and still have not encountered my first visit with the OBGYN.


I know...
that's bad, really bad... terrible really! #dontjudge


BUT
seriously look how terrifying those stirrups look ^
I'M. SO. SCARED.

Everyone has been telling me, "Lauren, you have to go!" and I keep saying I will, but then find an excuse not to. Please tell me I'm not the only girl in the world with this fear?!

Is it really as bad as I think it's going to be?!

I probably should have added this tiny task to my list of "to dos before baby making" post!

#helpplease : /

45 comments :

  1. That's probably a Phobia you need to Get a swift kick in the rear and go already. IT's EXTREMELY important to go. Women often have something wrong with NO symptoms when it comes to their womanly parts!!! YOu will only hate your self if something is in fact wrong and you only made it worse by not going? right?

    I'm kinda a big heath nut in terms of going to the doc just because my mom died of cancer at the age of 39. :) Be safe not sorry girlie!! you'll thank yourself later I promise!!!

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  2. I hate going to the gyno too but it's a VERY important appointment to make! It's not fun and I always wish I could fast forward time and just be done with it but the whole thing is over in LITERALLY 1 minute. 1 MINUTE! Seriously, it's the quickest thing ever.

    You reallyyyyyyyy should make an appointment and go ASAP! You'll feel much better once you've gone and know that everything is a-okay, promise! :)

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  3. I promise it's not as bad as you think! I mean it's definitely not fun and something that I kinda dread going to every year; but as a woman you really need to go!! What helps me is just remembering that practically every woman has to do this and they get through it!!

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  4. It's like going to the dentist, except the doc will be poking around a different...err....hole? Bahahha. It's NOT bad at all! Meet with a few different docs to find one you're comfy with. Not every dr works for every person. You do need to go though, you can do it! I just went to the dermatologist and had a mole removed (have been scared to go forever) I lived and it was not that bad. Maybe have your ma or a girlfriend or hubs even, go with you. Your health is something you cannot neglect. Keep us posted!!

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  5. I was scared my first time and still have mini panic attacks when it's time to do my "check-up" (which with my insurance is every-other year). But it's really not THAT bad.

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  6. I went for the first time when I was pregnant and I was so nervous. I was really shocked when it was so easy and non-evasive. My Ob-GYN was really great though and I specifically asked for a women and that made it easier. :) Everything will be fine girl!

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  7. This is what I tell myself over & over & over again whenever I go to the gyno, get a wax, etc. "THEY HAVE SEEN WAY WORSE & WAY MORE DISGUSTING THAN ME." :)

    Hope that helps! hahaha!!!! :)

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  8. You need to go - it's really not that bad, just a little uncomfortable. You'll be fine, I promise!

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  9. It's not as bad as you think. It's not pleasant...I mean, I wouldn't go just for FUN or anything, haha. But it's very important to get your lady-bits checked up on. Make an appointment with a female doctor ~ you'll feel much more comfortable ~ and just go & get it over with. If you can't make yourself do it for YOU, make yourself do it for your husband - doesn't he deserve a healthy wife who will be around for many years to come? =) Of course he does! You can do it!

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  10. it's not that bad! it's over so quickly!

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  11. Oh honey, you really do need to go. I promise you it is not as bad as you think - and the chair is not as scary as that photo makes it out to be. I think every woman feels a little apprehensive about going to the gyno. I personally ease that apprehension by requesting only to see female doctors; I wouldn't feel comfortable at all with a man, and that's fine. There are TONS of female gynos, and the receptionists are totally understanding of that request. The exam itself only takes a couple of minutes, and you can get a LOT of good info while you're there. It's very beneficial, and an important part of being an adult woman! Definitely get recommendations from friends and family for a good doctor so that your first experience is a good one!

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  12. So funny you wrote about this today! I never have had a problem with the gyno before. Mine is really nice and sweet and I liked the idea of having a woman of course. Yesterday I had my annual appt and it was...."med student day" - there was a male med student tagging along with her. I had to ask him to leave because it was making me too tense! Crazy!! I would recommend finding a doctor you are comfortable with and even bringing along some music to listen to!

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  13. Even after having 2 kids I'm still scared of going to gyno! I can't stand it although its good for you to get your yearly check ups. But I have an awesome gyno.

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  14. No one LIKES going to the gyno, BUT if you have one you like and TRUST it isn't so bad. Ask around to people you know and see if they like their gyno and then see who your insurance covers. OR if you don't have anyone to ask in your area then SCOUR the internet! I did this with pedi's for my daughter, I looked up who insurance covered and then STALKED their bio's and ANY comments or ratings online. It honestly worked bc we LOVE LOVE her pedi and I did the same thing with my gyno and I LOVE her and all her partners in her practice!

    GOOD LUCK GIRL!! :)

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  15. I was the exact same way as you - although I had gone to my first appointment when I was like 18, I went years afterwards without going cuz I hated it so much. My best friend kept pestering me to go and finally one day I woke up and realized that I had to... you just never know especially when things like ovarian cancer might not have signs at the beginning. A few minutes of being uncomfortable is totally worth the satisfaction of knowing you are healthy :)

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  17. I totally can relate to you. I go to the doctor a lot (slight hypochondriac + i'm a nursing student) but when it comes to that bi-yearly pap & pelvic exam.... I FREAK OUT! I mean it isn't pleasant, but trust me, it's so quick. They will usually distract you with some kind of chit chat about the weather or your favorite tv show (this surprisingly helps a BUNCH!). Like a few of the other girls have said, it's definitely important to go! And honestly... it helps to have a drink or two before hand, haha. Yes, I am admitting to having an alcoholic beverage before going to the GYN doc.

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  18. I'd take going to the Gyno than going to the Dentist any day! I'd say nip it in the bud and go. Especially if you have been sexually active!

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  19. The first time I went, I was 15 & I cried. You can do it. It really didn't stress me or make me panic after the second time. I recommend a woman because you will feel more at ease. I tell Brandon that I am off limits that day because after being poked on down there.. well I'm not really feeling "love time" later that night. Tell them you're nervous & that you are scared. Have them walk you through it before & you'll feel so much better.

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  20. get on it, girl. it isn't something anyone likes to do, but something we all must do. you will make it through just fine, and then look back and wonder why all the fuss was made about it. take care of yourself!

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  22. I can definitely relate to you!! I had this fear, before I actually went. My husband and mom had to convince me to go.. The worst part was the anticipation and the uncertainty of what it would be like. It really isn't that bad at all :) Promise. I just went for the first time a week ago and it wasn't bad. Make sure you express that you're nervous and it's your first visit. Get a female doctor and you'll do great! :)

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  23. Its not fun, but its not the end of the world. Its usually a quick trip, find a female doctor, and just go every year. It could save your life too

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  24. Get on it for sure! Honestly, it's only awkward for like 10-15 minutes and that "stuff" you are worried about is done. The first time I went I was upfront with the Dr. and told them I was nervous. She talks you through it so you know what's going on and before you know it you're done. As un-fun as it is, it's no big deal. My Dr. is a woman, super nice and I've been able to ask questions that you might feel weird asking a family dr or someone else!

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  25. I can't believe you haven't ever been, ha! I have a woman doctor & she is really nice! Makes the whole awkward mess, a liiitle easier. It does not take long, at all!! Just think of something else, ha! I hate going, just because I hate going to the doctor/hospitals.

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  26. It seriously isn't that bad, it is over in a couple of minutes and then you will be so relieved! Do it asap, it is the first step you can take to being a responsible parent someday. :)

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  27. I had the same fear that you had. I had a really great GYNO that was understanding. She walked me through it, it didn't take long, and wasn't near as bad as everyone makes it out to be. You should go because it is very important. Just find a GYNO that you like and will be understanding of your situation. :)

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  28. I was afraid too..! I didn't go till I was 21...it's not as bad as you think. My doctor is super professional and when I told her I had never been she took the time to explain what would happen. Find a doctor you like, it won't be that bad!

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  29. Girl it's not as bad as it sounds or looks. I prefer male doctors over female. The 1 female dr I have hurt me vs the 2 males drs that I've seen. It's important so don't be afraid, it's really not that bad.

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  30. Oh trust me I didn't go to the OBGYN until I got pregnant.. Then it was a must! I'm so terrified to go back and I even know what happens there. (it's not bad at all) it's just awkward? And it's not something I enjoy? haha you'll be fine!

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  31. It's really NOT as scary as it looks/may sound from friends. I went for the first time sometime in high school and have been going annually ever since. It's not even really painful~ everything is done super quick. It can be uncomfortable (weird, even) during some parts but really, it's all over so fast you don't need to worry! But you DO need to go-- like someone else up there said, just because you feel OK doesn't mean everything is. Just go for peace of mind. You'll be OK!!! :)

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  32. It's not as bad as everyone says! And the whole appointment took me about 15 minutes, from the time I got into the office until I left the parking lot. Super easy and important!

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  33. It's not near as bad as you'd think. I promise. And if you do plan on having babies, it's DEFINITELY a fear you'll have to get over. Because you WILL be checked on a regular basis. But it's really not that bad. The docs are usually super quick about it and if you have a good OB/GYN, they'll pretty much talk you through it. But it doesn't hurt, and trust me, they see it EVERYDAY. You'll be fine, girl. And like everyone else has said, it's extremely important that you go. Especially if ya'll plan on having children. If I wouldn't have gone, Luke probably wouldn't be here. Good luck, girl. :)

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  34. Not as bad as you think-I promise. And it's pretty quick so it's over before you know it. It's more uncomfortable than painful, in my opinion.

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  35. first of all i love your blog.

    and in my first appointment... i passed out.
    haha not because it was painful by any means, but because i was SO SCARED!!

    you will do great girl. have the hubs come hold your hand.

    it makes everything better.

    and YAY for real talk!!

    makes blogs so much better!

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  36. Hey Lauren!
    I know exactly how you feel and believe it or not it is actually a fear. My Obgyn was telling me that there are people who truly have a fear of it and I was/am def. one of them. The first time I went was when I was pregnant and the entire time I was so tense and every appointment after I was the same way--it is just how I handle being uncomfortable.
    It is so important to go, but know you are not the only one who fears this appointment and you are not crazy for feeling this way.
    Explain your fears to the doctor up front and having a female doctor is def. a plus. Also take your husband so you feel safe and secure.

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  37. Seriously!! I don't blame you at all! I hate hate hate going to the GYNO!! I just try to think of something else and stay as distracted as possible while Im there. And seriously, next time I think i'm going to read a magazine or something while Im in the stirrups. haha. I think it would help.

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  38. I totally know how you feel I am the SAME way!! There are totally scary and intimidating, BUT it is something you have to do. I'm a pretty modest person so I was terrified the first time I went. but it gets better I promise! And i am loving your blog I am your newest follower! :)

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  39. never ever been to gyno? Eek girl! haha but really, no worries. My only advice is just KNOW without a DOUBT that they have seen MUCH worse. Like gonnerea (spelling) type pus sores, oozing with nasty shiz. Make you feel better? Because they have seen it all, and smelled it all. ok, this comment is making me want to barf.

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  40. You're not helpless. I haven't been to any as well. I don't even go for foot massage, I despise it when someone else touches my feet like it's an intimate part of me. I am so mistrustful so you can imagine how uncomfortable I'd be when I need to see OB.

    But I guess you have to face it. Sooner or later, you gotta go anyway. I is a must see one soon also before planning for a baby.

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  41. I can definitely relate! I have this phobia. I have a little girl, so of course, I've been. It's funny because people would always say, "When you have a baby, that will go out the window" but it didn't and I still get that anxiety when I think about going.
    New follower, by the way ;)

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  42. i'm also 20...married...and have NEVER been!I'm having a panic attack right now just thinking about it!HaHA!

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  43. I'm 33, just got married, still haven't been! I started the pill about a month ago. Went to my regular doc and she didn't even do an exam. So, off the hook again. I'm TERRIFIED of the whole idea!

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  44. You really need to go and just do it. If you are comfortable with your reg. doctor, he/she will gladly do the exam. I have mine every year since I was 25ish and it's not that bad. My current doctor is a woman and she is wonderful! Last time I was there for the exam I think it only took 5 whole minutes and she even warmed all the equipment so there was no cold surprises! Because you want to have a baby in the next few years it is important to establish a relationship with a doctor you trust and to also make sure that everything is okay down there. Also, you can have the doctor explain when you are fertile, when you are not fertile, family planning, etc. Best of luck!

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