Before The Bump!

3/11/2012

Let's talk "baby talk" shall we?
Here lately my baby fever has kicked into full gear...
I can't get enough of them.

Sometimes I find myself spending my time, daydreaming about every aspect of being pregnant and having a baby of our own. {For example: how we'll announce our pregnancy, baby showers, gender reveal parties, maternity pictures, cravings, decorating the nursery, buying baby clothes... the list goes on and on!} But most of all I think about how I'll feel the first time I hold our baby in my arms.

However, as much as I would love to have a baby right now, I still don't think we're completely ready. Parenting isn't a walk in the park, it's actually the furthest thing from that. A parent has to be completely selfless and devote every aspect of their lives to their child. That is why Justin and I have decided to wait awhile {God willing} to start our family. We want to take the time now while we can to be "selfish" and enjoy the time we have with each other before we bring a little one into the world.

So before the BUMP we would like to accomplish/do the following:
- Be on our way to being totally debt free.
-Have our savings account built up to where we want it to be.
-Have our house completely remodeled.
-Go on at least 1, maybe 2 or 3 more vacations together!
-Have Justin be 100% established {insurance & benefits} and done with training at the PD.
-Last, but certainly not least, get a puppy! :)


So newlywed friends, what are your thoughts about babies? Are you guys ready to make that next step yet?!
Mama's out there, how long did you and your husband wait to have kids?!

I would love to hear your feedback! :)

49 comments :

  1. Full fledged baby fever here, but I started blogging to focus on other aspects of life too! I am just trying to enjoy the alone time with hubs (you definitely want to go on more vacations!) There will always be debt, remodeling, and other things but when it's supposed to happen it will! I believe this and know that there is a reason for everything. You will be super cute preggo though I know it!! :D

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  2. We had similar goals as well before Olivia Adele came along. I am SO glad we set goals and achieved them before having her. We have NO regrets and were SO happy and COMFORTABLE when we got that first positive pregnancy test! We waited until we had been married a year and a half to get pregnant. We were ready probably right before the 1 year mark but wanted to have a couple couples vacations before getting "started." haha

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  3. I think you are very smart in waiting. Everyone will say this, but you are young and have A LOT of time on your side.

    When I imagined being a "grown-up" I thought I would travel, go to college, date someone for years, have a huge wedding and then start a family once we had the white picket fence and huge bank account.
    This was not my reality.
    My husband and I met on a blind date and were engaged 3 months later and married 2 months after that. We then came up with a 2 year plan filled with travelling, finishing college and even saving up to move across the country before trying to start a family. Needless to say, half a year into our marriage we found out that we were expecting. Even though there are still so many things to check off our life list, we could not be happier and feel so blessed and lucky to be given such a special gift.

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  5. We will be married a year in June. We are both very far from being ready! Of course, I dream of the day when we will hold our first baby but we are young and have so much that we want to do before then!

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  6. I have baby fever BAD...and we just got married in October!! I do think we need to wait a little longer, though. My husband will be done with college in May & we are thinking about trying once he gets settled into a full time job. We do want to take at least one more big vacation just us two, though.... because once kids come along all of that gets put on the back burner...and I don't know if I want that jusssst yet :) LOVE your goals, though! Being less stressed during pregnancy is so good.

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  7. Our 1 year is in May, and even though I do dream and think about our own babies and family one day... I'm perfectly content being a young newlywed right now. I want these few years of just growing our relationship and our marriage before we take a huge step like that. :) Plus- who can say no to couples vacations?!

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  8. I'm not a newlywed but I LOVE the fact that you have goals to accomplish before y'all get preggers! Very smart in my opinion. And the vacay one is a must! Really cute blog!

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  9. I would one hundred million perfect wait until you're ready to be selfless, like you said! Kids can wait, but you do need to be selfish for a while and spend money on you. I like your perspective. :)

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  10. I love that you are waiting until you are ready instead of rushing into parenthood! We have a similar list for building up our savings, traveling more and being where we feel comfortable in our careers before we have a baby and we've been married almost 5 years! We know in the next year is when we are starting to get serious about starting a family so it'll def be worth the wait :-)

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  11. I think you guys have some great goals! Having children is a 24/7 commitment and its best to have everything done so you won't have that "I should have done this before" feeling.

    We pretty much have the same goals.... We (as in I) are almost debt free... couple months to go! Credit Card while a college student was bad idea for me! But once that is paid off we can fully focus on building up the savings and get through the remodeling of our home. We are half way through that also. Once I graduate in August I will have a lot more free time to knock that one off the to-do list ;) We are coming up to our one year anniversary and I would have to say we are doing pretty good. Hope to take a couple vacations this year too.

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  12. I have been married for 5 years and am still not ready! I love to see a baby BUT and the big word BUT is i am just not ready.. I get baby fever of course!! but when it comes down to it. I haven't accomplished what i want to before kids... When i do, then i will be ready!

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  13. Were you reading my mind? Baby fever has certainly hit our house as well! We just keep telling us that it will be on God's time, not ours:-)

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  14. I don't remember how I found your blog but I like it. We had our first baby just before our second anniversary. I was ready long before my husband and when we found out we were expecting a couple months sooner than we thought, we were pretty excited. Everyone told me to wait years but I didn't want to because I know being a mother is what I am meant to do and it's what I've dreamed of since I was little. I think your goals are great. I wish we would have been able to vacation a little more and have a little more money saved up, but I am still happy with my life. I know I am where I'm supposed to be.

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  15. I love the fact that you have goals! :)

    we are almost newlyweds ;) but I know we want to start trying right away. It's something we both want and we are just going to jump right into it :)

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  16. Ah, I had baby fever for about 2 years before I had Luke, but I think mine was chalked up to the fact that I was told I couldn't have children. I was sooo determined to prove my doctors wrong, and ultimately, I did. :) But I think ya'll have some great goals established. Because trust me, it is no walk in the park. But at the same time, it's the most rewarding thing in the entire world. And when you do have that moment when they first place your baby in your arms, embrace it like nothing else because it's the most AMAZING feeling in the world. I tear up everytime I think about Luke being born. It was an amazing experience. I can't wait to have baby #2! :D

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  17. May will be our 4th anniversary! Crazy to think we've been married that long! I'm so happy we've had this time together.... but we have decided that we will never really be totally ready to have babies. We keep adding to our list of things we want to accomplish before we have kids. So we have decided to do out best to cross things off the list... but we will probably have a baby before the list is finished. And that's ok because we can still totally accomplish everything we want even if we have babies. The list will never end Lauren. But you and your hubs will KNOW when it's right for you two to start a family. Even if your list isn't finished :)

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  18. This is great!! I have baby fever and I'm not even married (AH). But I think it's great to settle out a plan before.

    It will eventually happen, enjoy your time now.

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  19. My husband and I are newlyweds and we both have major baby fever right now. Mine is because I LOVE babies!!! His is more of "he doesnt want to be an old dad" HES 26!! Not going to be an old dad! But, there is still something there that is holding us back at the moment. I just don't think he is aware of what is to come with a baby. I have always been around babies. Babies kind of scare him. We have been told when it's yours its a whole different story though. Fingers crossed!! :)

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  20. We will be married 4 years in August, but we are due with our first baby any day. We both agreed we were ready to start a family. I will warn you, pregnancy is NOT a lot of fun, but it is so worth it. Definitely enjoy your time with your hubby for a few years. It just dawned on me a week or so ago that it will never be "just us" ever again!

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  21. We have been married for about a year & a half now, & I am not sure when I will be ready! I think my husband will be more prepared, than I will be. We get SO many people asking us when we will have kids. I just tell them 'when God wants us to' now, ha! You will know when you are ready! I am like you, we def want to be more financially stable first, more than anything!!

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  22. we are planning to wait a another year or two!

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  23. We have only been married for about two months and I am already having baby fever! I think it is because all of our other friends who have been married for a year or two are having kids and I am catching the fever, haha! I don't blame you for wanting to wait. I think I really do want to wait, but I feel behind at the same time if that makes sense. We will probably wait a year or two before we decide to have kids though.

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  24. I was getting baby fever bad recently, but when my 26th birthday rolled by it just turned off. like completely off. And with the wedding 2 months away... yea girl we can not afford to get preggers! I also told Matt we need to go on vacations and have fun for another couple years. but yes, I can NOT wait for a reveal party!!!

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  25. My husband and I were married for just under two years before we started trying. We haven't exactly had a walk in the park to say the least so we're starting to try again in two months. I just keep in mind that every thing happens for a reason.

    Just like you-we have a list of things we wanted to accomplish as well and I'm so proud to say that we accomplished what was on our list and more! We're both very excited and feel as though we're ready (as ready as one can prepare themselves!) for babies.

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  26. Baby fever is in full swing for this lady. We'll have been married 2 years, come August and I hope we can have a little bun in the oven soon. Love, love, LOOOOVE the "bump ahead" photo!!!!!

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  27. my hubs and i are coming up on our 2 year anniversary... if i were to get pregnant right now {and no, we're not trying}, i would be happy. i am positive the hubs would be THRILLED. i have a list of things i want to get done first { have a job that i love (i'm looking now), take a few more vacations, and buy a house}. in my perfect world, we'd start trying in about a year.. but i am so worried that i will wait too long and then have trouble getting pregnant! basically, whatever God sees fit... but baby fever is creeping in hardcore!

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  28. Y'all are so smart to wait!!! My husband and I waited for almost 4 years (but had been together for 14!) and we had a blast. Going on vacations and having our time together alone! You are still so young and you have time, so my advice would be not to rush it! :)

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  29. Hey, there! I just stumbled across your blog...and what a completely relevant post!
    My husband and I are in a similar situation...married a year and a half, fresh out of college and my husband just began his career. We grew up in a small town and lots of our friends are starting to have babies and OCCASIONALLY I find myself gawking at cute little baby announcement ideas or baby clothes or baby decor ideas.
    But we're with you. Right now, we don't feel we're quite stable enough to start a family. Ideally, we'd love to buy a house first (a big thing to save up for when you live in Los Angeles!).
    Kudos on waiting! I'm right here with you :P

    Andrea

    P.S. Absolutely get a puppy first! We love our little puggle...and he relieves many of my baby cravings haha.

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  30. We said we wanted to wait a year after the wedding so that we could enjoy married life and travel..but I know I am going to want to start after we say IDO...I am getting anxious!

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  31. I already have a baby and I still want another haha But having your freedom is something that you need to take advantage of!

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  32. ahhh the ol' before the bump list:-) love it! our little guy was a surprise blessing! whenever it happens is the perfect time:-) xoxo

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  33. Love this post. We've been trying for a little while now... I guess we're just waiting for the bump to be ready to come to us! Your blog is fabulous.

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  34. I think it's totally different for everyone and no one can tell you what to do! Some people don't want to wait, some people do...whatever floats their boats! : )

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  35. Love this! I do the same thing...some days, I obsess about wanting to get pregnant and other days I'm like, "why the heck would I want a baby right now? Vacations are fun!"

    And, we just got a puppy....and are about to build a house...so, I guess the next step is a baby!? Keep us updated!!!

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