Tuesday, January 17, 2017

Finding Balance Between Mom & You

Winter seems to be the worst but we all have those days where we feel like the walls are caving in. We spend precious time daydreaming of "simple" things and tasks we once took for granted. As moms our time to ourselves is very limited. A hot, (solo) shower lasting longer than five minutes is a victory.

We love our babies something fierce. We pour every ounce of ourselves into those little humans that sometimes, we lose ourselves along the way. It's easy to feel depleted when you're a wife, mother, housekeeper, cook, errand runner, grocery shopper, nurturer, playmate, bill payer etc. There are days you forget who you really are. 

One night not too long ago I found myself feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I was snapping at my husband for the dumbest reasons, being short/aggravated with my son and just down right rude. I honestly couldn't remember the last time I had even went to the bathroom by myself. I was tired, run down and so not myself. I decided that night that I needed to make a change. I came to the conclusion that it's "okay" to ask for help.I realized that I deserve a break every now and then. I decided that night that I was going to start making time for myself. 

Last Tuesday my mom had the day off and offered to watch Liam so I could take the day for myself. It was SO nice! I got an iced coffee + a pastry and just sat in quietness until I was ready to get up. I walked almost every isle at Target and grocery shopped in peace. My hubby even got me an hour, prenatal massage for the afternoon. At the end of the day I felt so refreshed. It was the first time in a long time that I had done anything for myself. I found myself feeling SO much happier. The time away completely reset my bad attitude and made me want to be an even better wife and mother. 

I've finally come the realization that it's alright to take your needs/wants off the back burner. I've also realized that you shouldn't feel guilty to take time for yourself every now and then. Time away is actually a good thing for everyone. 

I've made it a huge goal of mine to treat myself more this year and not to be so hard on myself. Whether it's a baby-free grocery trip, an iced coffee to get through the afternoon, fresh flowers, a hot bath or a planned date night... it' necessary! 

Don't be afraid to make yourself a priority.

Thursday, November 10, 2016

Liam's Barnyard Bash

As I'm sitting here staring at these pictures I have so many emotions. Tomorrow morning my baby will wake up as a two year old. How have two, incredible years flown by this fast? I have absolutely loved watching our little boy change and grow but I would give anything to rewind the time. Liam is truly the sweetest, most loving, happiest, baby boy. He brings nothing but joy to our lives every single day. He is everything I've ever dreamed, prayed and hoped for! I'm just so thankful to be his mommy. 

This year we decided to do a "Barnyard Bash" theme! Liam is obsessed with farm animals, or "babies" as he calls them when he plays with his stuffed animals. We ordered the cutest cow cake and animal cookies from The Cake Ladies. We had custom stickers, prints, toppers, thank you cards, labels, a personalized book and banner made from Pear Tree. I made DIY popcorn bags for all the kids! We tried to have the food match the theme as well! We had pulled chicken, green beans, "farm fresh eggs," pasta salad, a veggie tray, chips and salsa and "cowpies + haystacks!" We also had a custom "TWO" shirt made to match the theme! CodyandKait did an excellent job!! 

Liam had so much fun playing with all his family and friends! He also loved every second of being center of attention! I think everyone singing Happy Birthday to him was his favorite part! 

I'm so thankful I was able to pull off this party for him so last minute due to my car accident. I couldn't have done it without the help of my amazing family. 

Happy 2nd Birthday to the best little boy a mom could ask for!

Friday, August 12, 2016

Mommin' Ain't Easy

As moms, we are our own worst critics. I ask myself daily, "am I doing this whole mom thing right?" At night I'll stay awake thinking of all the things I could have and should have done better as a mom. I struggle daily with "mom guilt" even over the simplest things. Was I on my phone too much? Did I read him enough books? Did I let him watch too much TV? Did he eat too much junk food? Did I spend enough quality time? Was I too grumpy? 
Did I put him first? The list goes on and on...............
But why, WHY are we SO hard on ourselves? Don't we get enough judgment and backlash from society? Isn't it God's job to judge us? At the end of the day my baby is fed, clean, in a warm, comfy bed, being cuddled to sleep by a mother who would give her last breath for him. As mother's we have a huge responsibility to mold and shape our children into decent, well rounded, loving human beings. Trust me I get it, but there has to be a point where we give ourselves a break. We aren't perfect, no mother is, but I truly feel like we're all trying our best. Comparing ourselves daily to other moms is the worst thing we can do. I honestly believe comparison is the thief of joy. 
Parenting isn't for the faint of heart. All the mistakes and lessons make you who you are. Everyday is a learning experience that will make us better than we were the day before. I've made it my mission to stop being so hard on myself. When I see Liam's smiley face look up at me and say, "love you" I know I must be doing a whole lot of right. 
He is one amazing little boy...
and I'm one awesome mama, even on the bad days.