Winter seems to be the worst but we all have those days where we feel like the walls are caving in. We spend precious time daydreaming of "simple" things and tasks we once took for granted. As moms our time to ourselves is very limited. A hot, (solo) shower lasting longer than five minutes is a victory.
We love our babies something fierce. We pour every ounce of ourselves into those little humans that sometimes, we lose ourselves along the way. It's easy to feel depleted when you're a wife, mother, housekeeper, cook, errand runner, grocery shopper, nurturer, playmate, bill payer etc. There are days you forget who you really are.
One night not too long ago I found myself feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I was snapping at my husband for the dumbest reasons, being short/aggravated with my son and just down right rude. I honestly couldn't remember the last time I had even went to the bathroom by myself. I was tired, run down and so not myself. I decided that night that I needed to make a change. I came to the conclusion that it's "okay" to ask for help.I realized that I deserve a break every now and then. I decided that night that I was going to start making time for myself.
Last Tuesday my mom had the day off and offered to watch Liam so I could take the day for myself. It was SO nice! I got an iced coffee + a pastry and just sat in quietness until I was ready to get up. I walked almost every isle at Target and grocery shopped in peace. My hubby even got me an hour, prenatal massage for the afternoon. At the end of the day I felt so refreshed. It was the first time in a long time that I had done anything for myself. I found myself feeling SO much happier. The time away completely reset my bad attitude and made me want to be an even better wife and mother.
I've finally come the realization that it's alright to take your needs/wants off the back burner. I've also realized that you shouldn't feel guilty to take time for yourself every now and then. Time away is actually a good thing for everyone.
I've made it a huge goal of mine to treat myself more this year and not to be so hard on myself. Whether it's a baby-free grocery trip, an iced coffee to get through the afternoon, fresh flowers, a hot bath or a planned date night... it' necessary!
Don't be afraid to make yourself a priority.